Kimberly's Sex BlogCertified Sex Therapist Kimberly Resnick Anderson is passionate about sharing her provocative views, extensive knowledge and clinical experience. Her blogs are full of useful, honest information about intimacy, relationships and all things sexual.
The Trump Bedroom Backlash
Have you noticed your libido dwindling lately? Are you more easily annoyed when your husband or boyfriend initiates sex? If so, you may be one of millions of women suffering from a phenomenon that I dubbed “The Trump Bedroom Backlash.” In my clinical practice, I have...
Nipples—Naughty or Nice?
Do you know it was illegal for men to be topless at the beach until 1936? It may seem hard to imagine now, but prior to New York State passing the first law that allowed men to take off their shirts, they were arrested for showing their nipples. A movement has sprung...
To Squirt or Not To Squirt—That is the Question
Thanks to the porn industry, urban legend, and general sexual misinformation; there are many questions about female ejaculation (also known as “squirting”). Is it pee? Is it normal? How can I make my girlfriend squirt? How can I stop myself from squirting? Is it a...
Don’t Let Chronic Illness Steal Your Mojo
Do you (or someone you love) have a chronic illness that is affecting sexual health? Sexual health is a key component of overall well-being and life satisfaction. Nothing magnifies one’s sense of sexual health (or lack thereof) more than chronic illness. Sex remains...
Four Dangerous Relationship Traps Following Pelvic Pain
Based on my nearly 25 years of clinical experience, I’ve identified four common, predictable ‘traps’ that couples fall into after dealing with chronic pelvic pain. The ‘traps’ described below, although common, can be avoided by educating couples in advance. Being...
Pelvic Pain – Gameover?
Imagine not being able to have sex. Seriously. Imagine. Every time you attempt intercourse—searing, burning, ripping pain shoots through your pelvis. Sometimes you bleed. Sometimes it hurts to pee for a week after sex. Your partner’s erect penis is perceived as the...
10 Healthy Reasons to Get It On (Even If You Don’t Feel Like It)
Nature designed sex to feel good for a reason—so we will reproduce and endure as a species. But far beyond the pleasure principle, there are many physical and psychological benefits to sex. When people learn how healthy sex really is, it can actually serve as...
Bad Boy Syndrome—Fact or Fiction?
Bad Boy Syndrome—Fact or Fiction? Ladies, have you ever felt like a sort of Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde when it comes to sexual attraction? One day you find that aggressive, cocky guy at work to be completely offensive; then a week later you have a sex dream about him? You’re...
The Truth About Female Orgasm
Okay, so here’s the truth about female orgasm. We live in an orgasm-focused society. Orgasm is perceived as the proverbial icing on the already tasty sexual cake. Despite our misguided notion that orgasm is the primary ‘reason’ to have sex, when it comes to women, it is no sure thing. Read on to learn about the 5 most common barriers.
Common Barriers to Sexual Desire
Why do so many people lose their ‘mojo?’ Low libido is one of the most common complaints in my sex therapy practice. Desire is the initial phase of sexual response, followed by arousal, orgasm, and satisfaction. It is the most complex and fragile phase of sexual response (especially for women).
When working with clients, I divide desire into three separate and discrete components—biological, social, and psychological. At different stages of life, these components compete with each other, often creating conflict. People are often shocked when they discover just how fragile sexual desire really is!
Men Will Try Virtually Anything to Stay Hard!
Men have long been searching for the ‘holy grail’ of penile prowess. Charlatans, healers, and quacks have exploited male insecurities about sexual performance for over 2000 years. Lamar Odom’s recent abuse of so-called ‘herbal Viagra’ has the country talking about the lengths to which men will go to ensure potency.
4 Reasons Why Guys in Their 20’s Can’t ‘Get It Up’
When I started my career as a sex therapist in the early 1990’s, erectile dysfunction was an ‘older man’s’ concern. Now, I treat men in their 20’s who can’t get an erection. While the more mature crowd has new-found confidence thanks to Viagra, Levitra, and Cialis, it’s the younger guys who are struggling to perform. What’s going on? Why can’t young men ‘keep it up?’
Beyond Ashley Madison – The Shocking Truth About Affairs
Cheating is hardly a new phenomenon, but this ‘age-old’ problem is complicated by ‘new age’ technology. The Internet makes it disturbingly easy to cheat. But here’s another perspective – affairs can serve a surprising function – to stabilize relationships.
The Little Pink Pill: About Time or Sexual Mirage?
If approved, this will be the first-ever FDA drug to treat low libido in women.
10 Most Common Reasons Why Men & Women Need Sex Therapy
Low libido/No libido/Change in libido.
Trouble In the Bedroom?
If you and your partner can rattle off each others’ sexual fantasies.
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